Welcome Message

I’m so glad you’ve found My Very Own Angel; if you haven’t already check out our official website, please take the time to check it out at http://www.myveryownangel.org/ . My Very Own Angel is full of supportive resources and idea to assist women while carrying to term and post the loss of their angel. In addition to support for mothers MVOA also includes supportive resources and idea for everyone that is affected by pregnancy and infant loss, including fathers, grandparents, siblings, friends and family.

My Very Own Angel also heads off the 345 Teddy Bear Project, where every other year we donate 115 7” teddy bears wearing angel necklaces to various hospitals and prenatal diagnostic centers in sets of 3.

My Very Own Angel is also the original creator and designer of the official “I Have My Very Own Angel” T-Shirt and other soon to be announced keepsakes, to encourage women to be proud of their angels and make a statement to the world that often overlooks pregnancy and infant loss as something that “just happens”. The woman herself is a strong being to carry, birth, and take care of children, so what does that say about the unspoken and often forgotten women who suffer the loss of child against the natural order of death? It says that we have already climbed the hardest mountain, there is no sense in going back down, so climb up and keeping climbing doing good deeds, honoring your angel and practicing positive healing after such a tragic situation. Eventually you will reach the highest mountain, and you will hold your child in your arms again.

Thank you for taking the time to follow this blog and see the site, if you are a bereaved parent I can formally say I know how you feel, if you are a friend, family member, or an outsider looking in. Stay for a while check out some of the blogs we follow, view this situation from eyes of the families that have lost, I assure you, you will learn something and find a new sense of compassion.

Stephanie Stewart
Founder and Creator of My Very Own Angel

Monday, August 24, 2009

Week 4 of The Secret & The 345 Teddy Bear Project

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true

It sure can be hard to look at the sunny side of everything when you’ve just lost your baby, right? It’s hard to find the good in that, growing up although I wasn’t really exposed to death, I had it in my mind that your cards were dealt for you before you were even born and when and how you die is supposed to be in some kind of a way. I was content to believe that except in cases of babies and children, I thought it’s just not right there is no reason why two rival gangs should accidentally kill a 4 yr old playing in his own yard.
Sunday my pastor spoke about faith and the armor of God. He said that if you won’t put on the full armor of God at least take your shield of faith, which is from head to toe. At least take your shield of faith he said, why? Because with faith you can do all things
I question this line now, was I right are the cards already dealt for everyone, even babies and children? Consider this, the mother who brought the Amber Alert to our attention lost her daughter in one of those, it’s not fair, not right and how can there be a sunny side to her loss, but….she did create something that has saved the lives of many children. The mothers who stood together and created MADD suffered the same unfair loss, yet they created something that saves many lives. I think that they had faith and were able to look at the sunny side of their loss and make their optimism come true, and make a change; they will never save every life but just to save one, is one less tragic loss. So did they lose their children in the horrible way, so that change could be made???
I have seen the sunny side of Vayden’s passing, I still would rather trade my leg to have him back, but in his short life 3 hrs and 45 min he has done more than some 80 yr old people have done.

Next week To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best

The 345 Teddy Bear Project

Now someone may argue,"some people have faith; others have good deeds" But I say "How can you show me your faith if you don't have good deeds?" "I will show you my faith by my good deeds" James 2:18

Today I dropped of the 1st donation of The 345 Teddy Bear Project to OU Children’s Hospital, in OKC, OK. It was a wonderful experience to bless them with such a generous donation, I was able to go and visit with some of the staff that took such great care of me and Vayden. They kept telling me they were so happy to see that I was doing so well, and that I was able to see the sunny side of our situation and give back. I was invited to share my story at their nurses training class when they have their lesson on bereavement, to teach the new nurses how to work with the patients to ensure they have the best stay despite such a tragic loss. They have about 9 to 10 deaths a month, which broke my heart because I wish that number were less. Those teddy bears should last them about a yr. They wrote an article on My Very Own Angel for their news letter and took pics so I will share those when I get them.

7.5” teddy bears standard color light brown and medium brown
Each bear wears a hand placed angel charm necklace that offers a delicate reminder of your very own angel
Each bear wears a hand placed teddy bear tag with a short message that reads “We are sorry for your loss, please accept this teddy bear as a delicate reminder of your very own angel, Vayden’s Mommy & Daddy”


Lindsay said...

That is such a beautiful way to bless others in our sad situation. You are right, we can choose to make our babies' short lives, impact others. We can choose to learn from our suffering and help others who will come after us on this journey.
I admire you.
Just look at all those teddy bears, filled with love and hugs and kindness! I just know that many families will feel less alone with something to hold. Something given them by women who have walked this treacherous yet beautiful path before them. I wish someone would have thought of that at the hospital I delivered my Zoe.
Way to go!

Akul's mama said...

Akul has impacted my life in so many positive ways. Like you, I would give anything up to have him back alive and alert and healthy and in my arms, but I cannoy deny the positive changes in me because of his birth and death.

Anonymous said...

Stephanie,your smile & those bears are beautiful! And what a testament to love and dedication they are!I know these teddy bears will touch the hearts of those bereaved parents who receive them. What a perfect memorial to your sweet Vayden. My pink shirt arrived and I can only say thank you again and again.
Blessings, Sarita

croleyc69 said...

What a great post & what your doing is so AWESOME !!! I know your little Vayden is smilin so much. I remember when I lost my babies to miscarriages & feeling so empty when I left the hospital. It's a feeling no one should have to go thru. Thank-you for seeing the sunny side of your bad situation. I'm again so sorry you had to ever walk that road too. HUGS

Missing Kasey said...

What a beautiful thing you are doing! I wish I had support when we were in the hospital with Kasey. I love what you are doing!

Holly said...

A lot of good things can come out of a tragedy. Just look at the few things you mentioned! Plus look at what you yourself are doing! I think this is awesome! And my mind is totally going blank on me if I ever sent you that photo of my aunt and the bears she collected. Soooo....when I get home from work today I am going to email that to you!!! C'mon brain! Work!!

Once A Mother said...

its a beautiful thing that you are doing, and a wonderful way to honor your child. god bless

Shop with Me Mama said...

I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful thing you are doing. God bless you!

Mary said...

That is just awesome. I am glad that you have found the sunny side to such a dark moment in your life. May we all find that sunny side.

gemz87 said...

i am so sorry for ur loss, and im sorry we all have to meet like this.the teddys are gorgeous how do i get one?? i would love to have one sat on my side to remember my loss and all the others that have suffered aswell.x