Welcome Message

I’m so glad you’ve found My Very Own Angel; if you haven’t already check out our official website, please take the time to check it out at http://www.myveryownangel.org/ . My Very Own Angel is full of supportive resources and idea to assist women while carrying to term and post the loss of their angel. In addition to support for mothers MVOA also includes supportive resources and idea for everyone that is affected by pregnancy and infant loss, including fathers, grandparents, siblings, friends and family.

My Very Own Angel also heads off the 345 Teddy Bear Project, where every other year we donate 115 7” teddy bears wearing angel necklaces to various hospitals and prenatal diagnostic centers in sets of 3.

My Very Own Angel is also the original creator and designer of the official “I Have My Very Own Angel” T-Shirt and other soon to be announced keepsakes, to encourage women to be proud of their angels and make a statement to the world that often overlooks pregnancy and infant loss as something that “just happens”. The woman herself is a strong being to carry, birth, and take care of children, so what does that say about the unspoken and often forgotten women who suffer the loss of child against the natural order of death? It says that we have already climbed the hardest mountain, there is no sense in going back down, so climb up and keeping climbing doing good deeds, honoring your angel and practicing positive healing after such a tragic situation. Eventually you will reach the highest mountain, and you will hold your child in your arms again.

Thank you for taking the time to follow this blog and see the site, if you are a bereaved parent I can formally say I know how you feel, if you are a friend, family member, or an outsider looking in. Stay for a while check out some of the blogs we follow, view this situation from eyes of the families that have lost, I assure you, you will learn something and find a new sense of compassion.

Stephanie Stewart
Founder and Creator of My Very Own Angel

Thursday, January 21, 2010

I'm Going To Go To College

A young girl grows up with 3 sisters and 4 brothers. Both her mother and father never finished high school as well as her older siblings; she is 13 with 6 nieces and nephews with 1 on the way. In grade school when asked what are you plans for the future she replied ‘I’m going to go to college”. Many doubted her ability to finish school based upon her family history, still this young girl insist she’s going to college. The years continues as more and more obstacles came her way, her father is out of work and her mother’s hours were cut, the young girl now has to get a job to help out the family. She goes to school all day and works all night, it becomes harder and more stressful for her to focus and fight through her daily fatigue. Friends and family are unsupportive and encourage her to quit school and work full time, they’re exact words are “it would be easier”; she stands by her word that she is going to go to college. She makes it through high school and gets into college, she is more aware, mature and appreciative of what college is really about and how hard it is to achieve. She did not take going to college for granted and she finished top of her class.

The connection between this story and loss is you have to tell yourself what you want to happen. It’s just like faith in Gods promises, you have to tell yourself that you’re going to walk through the rain, never give up and never lose yourself on the rough roads. Tell yourself that you’re going to get through this and it’s going to make you a better stronger person. Going through this allows you to understand the true blessing behind pregnancy and children, you will never be the same, you will be slightly bruised and broken but you will heal and your overall appreciation for life will grow.

A few months ago someone asked me if I was waiting for my breakdown. After thinking about it, I replied “No”, because although I will have rough days I know that I’m going to get through this and my good days will outweigh my bad days by pounds.

The next time you find yourself really down, remember this young girl who went against all odds when she said, “I’m going to go to college”.