To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the great achievements of the future
First I'd like to thank all who follow The Secret breakdown, whether you do it on your blog or not. I have enjoyed testing myself to become a better person.
This weeks line was hard for me, I rarely dwell in the mistakes of the past, if I make a mistake, I make it right and I move on from it. From all the mistakes I've made there is one that I often still think about. I suppose because the situation finally hit home for me.
Back when I was newly pregnant with Vayden, my dear friend Sheena suffered an ectopic pregnancy loss. She didn't even know she was pregnant until she found out she was going to lose her baby. She and her husband had been TTC for months. When I heard the news I sobbed on my couch, I was pregnant and wanted to be pregnant just as bad as she did. I was even a lil upset with God, if any of you know Sheena, she not only wanted another child, she truly deserved another child. Amazing mother!!!!
Because she knew that I was pregnant and we were supposed to be "belly buddies" I thought it would be too hard for her to be around me, I didn't even call her. I sent her a msg on myspace telling her how sorry I was for her loss. When I found out about Vayden's condition, Sheena was the 1st out of my friends that I called. I cried and screamed on the phone with her, she cried with me, she talked to me for about 2 hrs as I repeated myself over and over again. She was there for me every step of the way through my journey of carrying to term. She even spoke at Vayden's memorial services. Sheena thank you for treating me, better than I treated you.
My most regretted mistake was that I wasn't there for her during her loss like she was for me. I will never again assume that a woman doesn't want or need support after her loss. I will lend my ear and offer my shoulder, and I will now be able to say " I understand"
See you next week: To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet
2 comments:
I definitely understand you on this. I never truly understood the depth of loss until I have been there myself. Now that I know, I can better understand what to do and what not to do-what is ok and what is not ok.
I am posting this in memory of my oldest child, Christopher Michael Sanders, who died in April, 1975. Not a days goes by that I do not think of him. After his tragic death, we lost 5 other children,, one lived 20 minutes, one lived one hour, and three were stillborn. I am so thankful for our daughter, Allison, who turns 29 today. Goodbye my sweet babies, I hold you close to my heart.
Blessings,
Sharon Oels Martyn
sharonmartyn@yahoo.com
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